What if every time you hold a grudge against someone else, it’s more about holding a grudge against yourself? You won’t let go. That person who wronged you touched a chord in you, probably something you’ve been hanging onto since childhood and you can’t let go. You can’t forgive yourself and you can’t forgive others.
I think God puts you where he wants you to be and we all have the opportunity to minister to others wherever we are. You don’t need a church or an altar. A cup of coffee and a friendly greeting might suffice.
You could be ministering to someone every day and not even know it.