Being a virgin on your wedding day is no guarantee of anything for your future, except, I suppose, it gives your spouse less of your past to be concerned about. With nothing to compare it to, it might also be hard to find fault with your spouse’s lovemaking technique
In a healthy relationship of any sort there’s give and take, and you are constantly “refueled” so to speak by the other person giving back to you. But when all you do is give and the other individual either can’t or won’t give back, eventually you’re drawing on an empty tank.
But at the same time, if I never sold another thing, would I keep writing? Yes, of course, because if I give up, then assuredly I won’t sell anything else.
Frankly, you’d want to think of a mentor as someone whose example you’d want to follow, someone who can help you be all that you can be. Darby introducing me as such when I failed miserably in that role, is not something I find at all flattering.
The best thing you can do for me and for yourself is get to over this and be happy. Find someone who loves you the way you deserve to be loved and go for it.